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Reminder: Let’s Talk Turkey Coaching Sale Ends Tomorrow!

This is a time of year when ADDers tend to focus on everyone but themselves.

It’s very easy to get caught up in holiday chaos, family drama and the pressure to get everything perfect. It's very difficult to manage your responsibilities under pressure, and stay sane in the process...

...especially when you have adult ADD!

Lately I've been hearing the same complaints from adults with ADD:

• I don't know how to manage my time! I'm always running late. Things take so much longer to complete than I think they will. And I have so many unfinished projects! There's so much to do right now and I have no time!
• I have so much clutter that it's driving me crazy! I can't have friends and relatives over when my house looks like this. I can't even find my keys, let alone remember where I stored the holiday decorations last year!
• How am I supposed to do my shopping, send out my cards, attend countless functions, clean up my house, decorate my house, and manage my ADD in the process?!?

I can help. Let's talk turkey...

If you can relate to the feelings of overwhelm, pressure, and general chaos that I described above, then The Let's Talk Turkey Coaching Package was designed for you.

This limited-time-offer coaching package equips you with our most popular coaching toolkits that show you exactly how to manage your time and bust through your clutter to organize your space. Here's what you get in the package...

1. Kiss Your Clutter Goodbye! Coaching Toolkit. This breakthrough program has helped countless adults with ADD bust through their clutter and keep it away for good! The kit includes a 55-minute audio CD and 26-page booklet. (Value: $47)

2. Master the Art of Time Management Coaching Toolkit. This step-by-step program teaches you how to custom-design an ADD-friendly time management system that works with your ADD. The kit includes 2 audio CDs with over 100 minutes of content plus a 35-page booklet. (Value: $67)

 

3. (Optional) Personal Coaching Session with Me. After you get to work with your toolkits, you might want to check in with me to ask a few questions or get some feedback on how you're applying your new systems. I'll meet with you for a 30-minute laser coaching session via phone.* You can use this time to ask me anything you want about clutter control, time management, or ADD management. (Value: $100)

*Please note that my coaching hours are Mondays from 5-7pm EST, Tuesdays from 1-4pm EST, and Thursdays from 12-3pm EST. You have through March 31, 2010 to schedule your appointment.

Right now--when the pressure is on and the overwhelm starts setting in--is the perfect opportunity to work on these challenges that make this time of year so difficult for adults with ADD.

You shop for everyone else this time of year, why not make a little room in the budget for you?

Let's Talk Turkey Coaching Package
What You Get:	Option 1: Coaching Tooklits	Option 2: Coaching Toolkits + Personal Coaching
Kiss Your Clutter Goodbye! Coaching Toolkit (Value: $47)
Master the Art of Time Management Coaching Toolkit (Value: $67)
Thanksgiving Package Discount PLUS Free Shipping Anywhere in the World!
30 Minute Laser Coaching Session with Me (Value: $100)
Register for Your Preferred Option	$115.90 $97 Save $22.90!	$215.90 $177 Save $42.90!

Offer expires at midnight EST on Sunday November 29th!

Remember, if you purchase Option #2 with personal coaching included, you don't have to use your session right away. You can book your session any time through the end of March!

So if you're feeling the pressure and you're really in need of a step-by-step plan to manage your time and stay organized, then Let's Talk Turkey!

Enjoy the rest of your Thanksgiving weekend!

P.S. Never underestimate the importance of taking care of yourself, especially around the holidays. Use this opportunity to start making positive changes in your life!

Announcing the "Let's Talk Turkey" Coaching Sale!

It seems like this year more than ever, people are getting inspired to make positive changes in their lives. As a coach, I'm thrilled to see so many people ready to take on their ADD challenges and begin to live out loud. So in honor of Thanksgiving, we're throwing a "Let's Talk Turkey" Coaching Sale!

The Let's Talk Turkey Coaching Package includes some of our most popular products:

1. Kiss Your Clutter Goodbye! Coaching Toolkit. This breakthrough program has helped countless adults with ADD bust through their clutter and keep it away for good! The kit includes a 55-minute audio CD and 26-page booklet.
(Value: $47)

2. Master the Art of Time Management Coaching Toolkit. This step-by-step program teaches you how to custom-design an ADD-friendly time management system that works with your ADD. The kit includes 2 audio CDs with over 100 minutes of content plus a 35-page booklet.
(Value: $67)

 

3. (Optional) Personal Coaching Session with Me. After you get to work with your toolkits, you might want to check in with me to ask a few questions or get some feedback on how you're applying your new systems. I'll meet with you for a 30-minute laser coaching session via phone.* You can use this time to ask me anything you want about clutter control, time management, or ADD management.
(Value: $100)

*Please note that my coaching hours are Mondays from 5-7pm EST, Tuesdays from 1-4pm EST, and Thursdays from 12-3pm EST. You have through March 31, 2010 to schedule your appointment.

 

If you're ready to make some positive changes in your life, then you won't want to miss out on this time-sensitive coaching package.

It's only available through this Sunday, November 29th, so you'll have to act quickly!

Let's Talk Turkey Coaching Package
What You Get:	Option 1: Coaching Tooklits	Option 2: Coaching Toolkits + Personal Coaching
Kiss Your Clutter Goodbye! Coaching Toolkit (Value: $47)
Master the Art of Time Management Coaching Toolkit (Value: $67)
Thanksgiving Package Discount PLUS Free Shipping Anywhere in the World!
30 Minute Laser Coaching Session with Me (Value: $100)
Register for Your Preferred Option	$115.90 $97 Save $22.90!	$215.90 $177 Save $42.90!

Offer expires at midnight EST on Sunday November 29th!

Remember, if you purchase Option #2 with personal coaching included, you'll have through the end of March to book your session!

This is a great opportunity to take advantage of our most popular coaching products at a generous discount. You're shopping for everyone else this week, why not make a little room in the budget for you?

I hope you and your family have a very Happy Thanksgiving!

Adults with ADD: Top 5 Ways to Have a Happy Thanksgiving

Well, the holiday season is officially upon us! And for some adults with ADD, this is the most stressful time of year.

I'm sure you're very busy this week, so here are a few quick and practical tips for managing your ADD this Thanksgiving (or any holiday.)

1. Know Your Own ADD and Plan Ahead to Deal with It

You know yourself better than anyone, so ask yourself "How does my ADD affect me on the holidays?" Make a list of all the things that tend to stress you out, and make a plan to deal with them.

Here are a few examples:

• Do you tend to say impulsive things that you later regret? Plan to take a deep breath before answering ANY questions so that you can think about your words before you speak them.
• Do hyper kids or too many people overwhelm you? Plan to excuse yourself and take a brief walk when things start feeling chaotic.
• Does a family member really make you mad when s/he starts nagging or becomes critical? Plan a simple response that won't fuel the fire, like "I'm sorry you feel that way. I'd rather talk about a great book I'm reading right now."
• Do you get antsy after a long day? Plan to end the day early, so that you don't reach the point of irritability.

2. Don't Expect Perfection

Accept that the day won't be perfect. Nothing is! Whether you're hosting the holiday, staying with family, or visiting a restaurant, realize that something is bound to go wrong. That's life. Don't hold it against yourself, or the people around you. Whatever it is, do your best to move on and let it go.

3. Ask For and Accept Help

Whatever your role is this holiday, you don't have to do it all on your own. If you're hosting the holiday, ask for help in the kitchen. This is perfectly acceptable, and most people are happy to help out where they can. If you're offered help, accept it with gratitude!

4. Remember That People Do The Best They Can

Long days with family members often end in frustration and hurt feelings. Try to remember that people do the best they can with the skills and tools they have. Hurtful comments probably aren't meant to be hurtful. Don't hold it against friends and family members who may not have the necessary skills to express themselves effectively.

5. Smile!

Set the tone for those around you by being positive, smiling often, and enjoying yourself!

Thanksgiving is only a few days away. Take some time to prepare yourself NOW so that you don't get overwhelmed later!

How do you handle Thanksgiving stress? Share your thoughts in the comments!

Delay Is Not Preferable to Error

Last week, I saw Thomas Jefferson's quote "Delay is preferable to error" running all around the Internet, and I had to cringe.

This "inspirational" quote is dangerous for adults with ADD, especially those who struggle with perfectionism. (And I haven't met a single adult with ADD who doesn't get stuck in perfectionist mode in at least one or two areas.) "Delay is preferable to error" could be adopted as a motto for perfectionists.

If you've ever coached with me, then you know that I can easily pick up on perfectionist tendencies, probably because I've struggled with them, myself, in the past (and still do in certain situations.) 

When I was going through my coach training, David Giwerc taught us, "Remember PPP!  Perfectionism Prevents Progress!" This really stuck with me, and I share it with clients often.

People mistakenly believe that perfectionists are, well...perfect. That their houses and offices are clean and sparkling, that everything is in its place, and that every project is right on schedule.

In reality, perfectionists often feel like failures. The mark of perfectionism is that nothing ever gets completed! There's always one more thing that could be made better. Nothing is good enough to be considered "done." And when all that unfinished business piles up, a perfectionist feels guilt and shame.

Three examples come to mind when I think about how adults with ADD can get stuck in thinking that delay is preferable to error:

1. Mindy, a former client and a grad student at an Ivy League University, failed a number of assignments because she didn't turn them in on time. They weren't incomplete, just not perfect. The thought of getting a B for a good job was not good enough. She preferred to get an F for a perfect, late paper than a B for an on time, imperfect paper. Her professors--and the university--disagreed. (I've found that many students--college age and adult--struggle with this form of perfectionism.)

2. Pete, also a former client, was frustrated by the outdated software programs in his office, so he created a software program that could be customized for sales people not just in his company, but in his entire industry. He delayed seeking out investors because he was constantly finding things to improve in his software program; it never felt finished. After tweaking the software for almost 2 years, someone else beat him to it with a similar program and made a small fortune.   

3. As I've been learning how to play guitar, I've been getting caught up in the idea that I need to learn how to do something exactly right before I learn how to do it quickly. Brett, my guitar teacher, has been trying to drill into my head the idea that timing is more important in music. If you get the timing right and miss a few notes, the vast majority of people won't even notice. But if you get the timing wrong, listeners will know it. Think about it: when's the last time you went to a concert and witnessed a musician say, "Wait, hold up, that wasn't right! Let me do it again."?? 

So if you happen to see Thomas Jefferson's "Delay is preferable to error" quote floating around the Internet, do yourself a favor and ignore it. No one's perfect.

Adults with ADD: Are You Feeling Blah?

Sometimes, there are weeks in which many of my clients seem to be dealing with a similar challenge. For the past week, that challenge can best be described as "The Blahs."

It's not that things are falling apart, but stress and overwhelm are kicking in for what seems like no particular reason. More than anything, people are feeling tired, bored, and just kinda "blah." Since this is a recurring theme in my coaching, and I have to admit I've felt it a bit myself, too, I can only conclude one thing: this inexplicable blah feeling is a result of season changes.

While not all of us suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (depression often brought on by winter), adults with ADD are more neurologically sensitive than most. So small changes in our environment can have big effects on our mood.

Since the start of Daylight Savings Time this past weekend, the days are already much shorter and, for many of us, the temperatures have dropped significantly. The loss of daylight hours alone is enough to make an ADDer feel sluggish, tired, and moody. In other words: blah.

Slowing down in fall and winter is actually quite normal and natural, just as it's natural to feel more energy in the spring and summer. Rather than beating yourself up over feeling "blah," why not give yourself permission to slow down a bit? If you don't feel up to going out as much, or taking on too many projects, don't push yourself. If you find yourself getting tired earlier in the evening, get some extra sleep.

Humans, like all animals, are programmed to take our cues from nature. So when the sun goes down early, the animals begin to hibernate, and many of the plants around us go dormant, it's natural for us to want to slow down, too. Of course, if at any point you find yourself wanting to sleep all the time or feel extreme sadness or hopelessness, then you may be depressed and it's important to talk to your doctor. For most of us, however, the seasonal blahs will visit us every year around this time.

Instead of pushing yourself to be productive and beating yourself up because you're not getting as much done as you were a month ago, try putting your energy into cooking nourishing meals, enjoying good books, and catching up on the movies you want to see. I'm willing to bet that when you take the pressure off, those seasonal blahs will begin to fade.

How do you manage the seasonal blahs? Share your thoughts in the comments!

The 4 Steps of Personal Change for Adults with ADD

First of all, I'd like to thank all of you who joined us for the 2nd Annual Virtual AD/HD Conference earlier this month! This year's conference was fun, educational, and inspiring, with over 500 people in attendance. So a big thanks to all of you for making it a fantastic event!

The conference inspired a lot of people to start making positive changes in their lives, and so today I'm going to talk about creating personal change when you have ADD.

I'll be the first to tell you that ADD offers many gifts. I've never met an adult with AD/HD who wasn't creative, compassionate, and driven, in one form or another. We hold in abundance many qualities that the rest of world sometimes seems to lack.

But while ADD has its upside, there is no denying that many of us often find ourselves out of sync with the rest of the world. Our time management skills are usually poor. Our abilities to prioritize and organize often need work. And a host of other challenges present themselves when an adult with ADD tries to thrive in a world full of non-ADDers.

Like everyone else, there are things about ourselves that we find we need to change. If it were easy to change old habits and thought patterns, there would be no need for therapists, coaches, or self-help books. Life would be simple. And it would be boring.

When positive, personal changes are made, like sharpening time management skills or adapting techniques for better focus, the result is a renewed sense of confidence and an increase in the options that are available to us. I've always thought of change as a 4-part process:

1. Education

It's information that inspires change. Becoming educated about ADD and the way it can affect adults is the first step to identifying changes that need to be made. This stage can last quite a long time before the next step is undertaken. Knowledge is like a seed, and the mind, all by itself, is a fertile garden.

2. Awareness

Self-awareness is key when making personal change. It's impossible to change that which we are not aware of. An adult with ADD must practice self-awareness in all areas of life to determine what's working, and what isn't. This is a time when one begins to realize that certain behaviors and actions have propelled you forward, and others have held you back.

3. Reframing

It's important to realize that every person always does the best they can. No one purposefully under-performs, under-achieves, or disappoints. When you give yourself enough credit to explore why you might do certain things the way you do, you can reframe your behaviors and actions with the understanding that they are there for a reason, and not because you are inadequate.

4. Action

The action step often happens on its own. When an adult with ADD gains knowledge, practices awareness, and realizes the positive reasons that change needs to take place, action will unconsciously follow.

Change is something that we will practice our entire lives. Real, lasting change takes time, and can't be rushed.

How have you created positive change in your life? Please share your thoughts in the comments!

Final Audio in 2009 Virtual AD/HD Conference Podcast Series

Our Virtual AD/HD Conference Podcast Series concludes today as conference speaker Dr. Kenny Handelman gives us a preview of his session on Evidence-Based Alternative Treatments for AD/HD!

You can listen to or download the complete conference podcast series here: http://www.ADHDconference.com/podcasts.shtml

Dr. Handelman's session is scheduled for Day 2 of the Virtual AD/HD Conference on Tuesday, October 6th from 4:00pm-5:00pm Eastern. (Don't worry if you can't attend live, as the recordings and handouts for all sessions will be available to everyone who registers!)

During Dr. Handelman's session, you'll:

   * Learn about the scientific data behind many alternative treatment options

   * Explore the integration of alternatives into a comprehensive AD/HD treatment plan

   * Review common alternative treatments in AD/HD, such as changes in diet and use of Omega-3 supplements

Quick Conference Info

The 2nd Annual Virtual AD/HD Conference takes place October 5-7, 2009 from the comfort of your own home or office!

Don't miss this unique opportunity to:

1. Get the latest information, tools, and resources from 26 of the top AD/HD experts
2. Connect with hundreds of people whose lives are also affected by AD/HD
3. Participate at your own pace and on your own time with access to all the conference sessions and materials for a full 3 months after the close of the event 

To register, get more info, review the entire conference agenda (speakers and sessions), or listen to podcast previews of 10 sessions, visit http://www.ADHDconference.com.

The Virtual AD/HD Conference is a one-of-a-kind, international event that brings the AD/HD community together. I hope you'll join us!

Top 10 Reasons to Register for the Virtual AD/HD Conference

10. It's both fun AND informative!

9. You'll be one of the first to hear conference keynotes Dr. Ned Hallowell and Dr. Daniel Amen share information from their forthcoming books.

8. You can preview many of the conference sessions by checking out our Podcast Series.

7. You'll get a virtual Goodie Bag of valuable gifts (white papers, audio recordings, tip sheets, etc.) from our speakers and sponsors.

6. You can skip the cost and hassle of travel.

5. You can participate on your own time and at your own pace. You'll have access to all the conference materials during the conference, and for three months after.

4. You'll break out of isolation and connect with the people who are in your shoes.

3. You'll get all the information, tools, and resources that you and your family need to succeed with AD/HD.

2. You'll welcome 26 of the top AD/HD experts into your home...without having to clean up!

1. Registration fees increase by $50 on Monday!

The Virtual AD/HD Conference takes place October 5-7th in your own home or office.

Don't miss this opportunity to connect with the experts AND your peers to get all the tools you and your family need to succeed!

Register for the Virtual AD/HD Conference at http://www.ADHDconference.com

Do You Know the ONE ADD Management Strategy that Works for Everyone?

It's true! No matter who you are, there is one very important thing that you can do to effectively manage your ADD. I bet you'll know it when you hear it, too! But before we do that...

I want to make sure you know that you can still save $50 on registration for the Virtual AD/HD Conference! Rates increase on Monday, September 28, so now is the time to register!

Visit http://www.ADHDconference.com.

More on the conference in the next post, but first let's jump back to that one ADD management strategy that works for everyone. Can you guess what it is?

The one ADD management strategy that is guaranteed to make your ADD more manageable is...[drum roll, please]...self-care! Yes, it works for everyone. And small steps lead to really big improvements in this arena.

When I say "self-care," I'm talking about the three basic things that every person (ADD or not) needs to focus on in order to stay healthy and feel good: nutrition, exercise, and sleep.

Let's take a look at why each of these are so important for adults with ADD.

1. Nutrition

If you pay close attention to what you eat, you’ll find that the foods you consume have a big affect on your ability to manage your ADD. When you consume excess sugar (or caffeine, or simple carbohydrates), your energy spikes, and then you crash.

To manage the crash, you reach for more sugar, which once again makes your energy spike and crash. It's not uncommon for an ADDer to get stuck in this kind of cycle all day long. When that happens, you just don't feel good! You deprive yourself of the energy you need to focus on your day.

2. Exercise.

It can be hard to create an exercise routine when you feel like you're constantly running behind on life. But making exercise a priority can make a big positive impact on your ADD.

There are many benefits of exercise. And practically speaking, exercise directly helps combat many ADD challenges. It increases energy and focus, and helps you sleep better. It decreases your stress and tension levels. It gives you the opportunity to stop thinking so much, and move your body. You feel more balanced and in control. Many experts agree that exercise can be just as powerful as medication!

3. Proper Sleep

Studies show that people (without ADD) who are deprived of sleep become stressed out, have trouble concentrating, and difficulty managing tasks. Sounds like ADD, right? Now imagine how bad it is when you already have these challenges to begin with!

If you have trouble getting a good night's sleep, you may not be able to fix the problem immediately. But one thing you can do right away is make a decision to make sleep a priority! That might mean cutting out excess stimulation at night, going to bed earlier, or even making an appointment with your doctor.

When you focus on self-care, you feel better, and you lay a foundation for good ADD management.

The Bottom Line: The more you eat nutritiously, get proper sleep, and make time for exercise, the better you will feel. The better you feel, the easier it is to manage your ADD.

How does good self-care positively impact your ADD? Share your thoughts in the comments!

Virtual AD/HD Conference News: Save $50

There's Just 1 Week Left to Register for the Virtual AD/HD Conference at the Current Rates. Register Now Before Fees Increase $50 on Monday September 28!

Sign Up Now at http://www.ADHDconference.com!

The Virtual AD/HD Conference Podcast Series continues today with a preview of the session "For ADDults Only: AD/HD and Sexuality" with Kate Kelly and Paul Ravenscraft.

This is one of those topics that many adults with AD/HD have questions about, but are afraid to ask. But Kate and Paul are going to break it down for us at the conference and explore this subject with honesty and compassion. It's going to be informative and fun!

Go to http://www.ADHDconference.com/podcasts.shtml to listen to or download a preview of this session, along with previews of 8 other Virtual AD/HD Conference sessions.

Are You Still Undecided About Attending the Virtual AD/HD Conference?

If you're still undecided about joining us for the Virtual AD/HD Conference, then consider this:

• The Virtual AD/HD Conference is the ONLY event that gives you access to 26 of the top AD/HD experts, plus hundreds of your peers, in the comfort of your own home or office.
• The Virtual AD/HD Conference is for everyone in the AD/HD community, including adults, parents, spouses/partners, and professionals. Get the information, tools, strategies, and resources that you and/or your family need to succeed.
• The Virtual AD/HD Conference provides easy and convenient opportunities for you to connect with your peers both during and after the event. Share your experiences, swap tips, and make new friends!
• The Virtual AD/HD Conference allows you to participate at your own pace. You can attend sessions live, or you can listen later. And you'll have access to the event website for 3 months after the conference, so you'll have plenty of time to download all the recordings and handouts and connect with your peers.
• The Virtual AD/HD Conference provides all the benefits of attending a physical conference with none of the hassles. No planes, no hotels, no babysitters—no travel costs!

If you decide to join us, now is the time to register! Fees increase $50 on Monday September 28, so don't delay. Register at http://www.ADHDconference.com.

Hope to see you there!

P.S. Please don't forget that registration fees will increase on September 28, so don't wait to sign up! Join us at http://www.ADHDconference.com!